What does the Bible say about Christians dating unbelievers?
If you’re reading this article, you’re probably in (or hoping to be in) a romantic relationship with someone whose spiritual faith may not quite be in sync with yours. If you want to know what the Bible says about this, that’s admirable! In this article, we will take a deep dive into the issue and try to explore many of the different facets and considerations.
For the purposes of this article, we’ll call the subject of your affection your “Significant Other” or “S/O” for short. We’ll assume that you’re a believer and follower of Jesus Christ. And finally, we’ll guess that there is at least some question about your S/O’s spiritual position. Before we dive in, let’s get a few things out of the way…
Your Significant Other is not inferior to you or “unworthy” of you
If you’re not sure whether your Significant Other is a believer in Christ as you are, we are not saying that he/she is somehow a terrible, inferior person who is unworthy of you. On the contrary, your S/O is probably a pretty nice, likable, quality person. After all, you wouldn’t be attracted to your S/O if this weren’t the case.
The purpose of this study is not to tear down your Significant Other because he/she may not share your faith in Jesus. But there are concerns to address here, for your sake, for the sake of your S/O, and for the sake of those around you.
To begin, let’s look at what you know about your Significant Other’s relationship with God.
What’s the Problem?
You’re reading this because you (or someone you know) is in (or hoping to be in) a “Believer + Unbeliever” relationship, and you’ve heard concerns that this violates God’s commands in the Bible. Most specifically, this passage is at issue:
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial ? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.”
2 Corinthians 6:14-16
Is this what all the fuss is about? Isn’t this just “advice” rather than a command? Is this passage suggesting that you are “light” and your Significant Other is “darkness?” Isn’t there some wiggle room here?
These are natural and understandable questions, and it may seem reasonable to you to compromise just a little bit. After all, you don’t want to hurt your S/O over an issue of faith, do you? You don’t want to push him/her away because of your stubborn refusal to compromise.
And yet, all sin begins with compromise. It begins by cracking the door open just a bit, opening up just the tiniest space for a different perspective aside from God’s.
And before you know it, sin abruptly, suddenly, violently pushes the door wide open.
“But wait,” you might be thinking, “I don’t think my Significant Other is really an unbeliever!”
Is your significant other really an unbeliever?
I hate to say it, but if you’re asking this question, you’re already compromising. How? Because this question would only be asked if the spiritual standing of your significant other is uncertain.
Shouldn’t the faith of a believer in Christ Jesus be clearly evident in the way that he/she lives? Shouldn’t His impact on our lives be clearly felt by those around us?
If you don’t know whether your “Significant Other” is a believer or not, it can only be because the Fruit of the Spirit is not clearly evident.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.
Galatians 5:22-25
“Wait,” you might be thinking, “my Significant Other has those traits!”
Yes, it may seem so, but not so fast. The Fruit of the Spirit is not just a matter of showing love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. It’s also about crucifying the flesh, living by the Spirit, and keeping in step with the Spirit.
And of course, you can’t keep in step with the Holy Spirit if you don’t have the Holy Spirit to begin with.
Knowing a tree by its fruit
Jesus observed that trees are known by their fruit, as He pointed out here:
“No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. 44 Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briers. 45 The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.
Luke 6:43-45
If your heart is full of the love of Jesus, it will overflow from your mouth. Your speech will naturally be filled with praises and love for God. Your actions will be motivated by your love for Him. Your heart’s desire will be to walk more closely with Him.
Are these things clearly evident in your Significant Other? For that matter, are they evident in you?
In order for any relationship to work properly –especially a romantic relationship– both parties need to begin with a vital, growing relationship with God. For your part, you should always be working to know and obey God better.
But what if your Significant Other isn’t obviously pursuing a close relationship with God?
Unequally Yoked
Way back in the Old Testament, God gave His people numerous laws for morality, holiness, and basic common sense. Here’s one of those “common sense” commands:
Do not plow with an ox and a donkey yoked together.
Deuteronomy 22:10
Now, it may seem strange that God would issue a command about something that might seem trivial, but the truth is, this command makes a great deal of sense. A yoke was a connector, usually made of wood, that connected livestock animals to the wagons, carts, or farming tools they were pulling. In many cases, two animals were yoked, or connected, together to share the work.
You can imagine, then, how inefficient and even destructive it would be to yoke a large, powerful ox together with a smaller, weaker donkey. This practice would not only be taxing for the animals, but would also result in uneven plow rows and other problems. Going further, this practice of yoking together such different animals could result in their injury, and in less fruitful crops.
Applying this principle to human relationships
Throughout Scripture, God warned His people not to intermarry with people from the godless nations around them. And whenever the people disobeyed God and intermarried with the godless nations around them, it always brought trouble. Consider these examples:
When the LORD your God brings you into the land you are entering to possess and drives out before you many nations–the Hittites, Girgashites, Amorites, Canaanites, Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites, seven nations larger and stronger than you–2 and when the LORD your God has delivered them over to you and you have defeated them, then you must destroy them totally. Make no treaty with them, and show them no mercy. 3 Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, 4 for they will turn your sons away from following me to serve other gods, and the LORD’S anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you.
Deuteronomy 7:1-4
“But if you turn away and ally yourselves with the survivors of these nations that remain among you and if you intermarry with them and associate with them, 13 then you may be sure that the LORD your God will no longer drive out these nations before you. Instead, they will become snares and traps for you, whips on your backs and thorns in your eyes, until you perish from this good land, which the LORD your God has given you.
Joshua 23:12-13
King Solomon, however, loved many foreign women besides Pharaoh’s daughter–Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians and Hittites.2 They were from nations about which the LORD had told the Israelites, “You must not intermarry with them, because they will surely turn your hearts after their gods.” Nevertheless, Solomon held fast to them in love. 3 He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray. 4 As Solomon grew old, his wives turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the LORD his God, as the heart of David his father had been. 5 He followed Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians, and Molech the detestable god of the Ammonites. 6 So Solomon did evil in the eyes of the LORD; he did not follow the LORD completely, as David his father had done.
1 Kings 11:1-6
“What has happened to us is a result of our evil deeds and our great guilt, and yet, our God, you have punished us less than our sins have deserved and have given us a remnant like this. 14 Shall we again break your commands and intermarry with the peoples who commit such detestable practices? Would you not be angry enough with us to destroy us, leaving us no remnant or survivor?
Ezra 9:13-14
A sensible command for our benefit
In light of this principle, it is no surprise that Paul, in his second letter to the Corinthian church, warned them not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers.
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial ? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.”
2 Corinthians 6:14-16
If you’re offended at the implications here, let me remind you. This is not to say that you, as a believer, are so much “better” a person than an unbeliever. Truly, we are all sinners. Apart from Christ, you are no different than any unbeliever. Again, this is not meant as an insult to a Significant Other who doesn’t belong to Christ.
Separated, divided, and apart
The fact remains, however, that if you are a believer, Christ has set you apart for Himself. That’s not the case for an unbeliever. And so, you’re in separate places.
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. 10 Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.
1 Peter 2:9
This is akin to a long-distance relationship, where one person lives in Kansas and the other lives in Beijing. You’re in different places, with different cultures and values, speaking different languages, separated by thousands of miles.
The separation between a believer in Christ and an unbeliever is far greater. If you’re not in the same place on the single most important issue of your life, how can you ever truly be together?
Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?
Amos 3:3
Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand.
Matthew 12:25
When you’re pulling in different directions, failure and heartbreak is all but inevitable.
Wait! It’s not like we’re getting married!
Perhaps at this point you’re thinking, “What’s the big deal? I’m not talking about marrying my S/O, I just want to date them!”
Maybe. But even if you’re only interested in dating, you’re still “hitching your wagon” to another person, even if you think it’s only for a short time. You’re still navigating the dating relationship together and making decisions together. At best, you’re still yoked together, and unequally so.
Going further, if you enjoy someone enough to date them romantically, your feelings and emotions are already factors in your decision-making. As you continue dating, the likelihood is that your emotions will grow, playing a larger and larger part in your thinking.
As your feelings grow stronger, it becomes harder to see or accept the hard truths about being unequally yoked, and all the more heartbreaking when it doesn’t work out. And don’t kid yourself. It usually doesn’t work out.
That’s one reason why Scripture gives us warning like this:
Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned?
28 Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?
Proverbs 6:27-28
All of this needless heartbreak can be avoided by resolving beforehand not to unequally yoke yourself.
No long-term thoughts?
What if you really don’t plan to marry the person you’re dating? If marriage is not on your radar at all with your Significant Other, you have a whole new set of issues to address.
That’s not to say that dating is a bad thing, but your motives for dating are the issue. What are you hoping to accomplish? If this is all just for fun, whose fun are you concerned with?
For whose benefit?
Of course, the desire for a romantic relationship is very natural and understandable, but we must ask ourselves what our motives are. Is your desire meant for the benefit of your “Significant Other,” or for your own gratification?
Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.
Romans 13:14
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. 4 Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Philippians 2:3-4
Most human beings long for a meaningful and gratifying romantic relationship. That’s natural and understandable. And of course, Scripture does clearly show us the amazing blessing that a Godly marriage can and should be.
But as disciples of Christ, we have higher concerns.
Of course, your Significant Other is probably pleasant to look at, pleasant to touch, and pleasant to be with. And, the feeling of having such an enjoyable person showing you appreciation and affection is undoubtedly pleasant.
But let’s read that list again. Who’s benefiting from the items on that list?
Who Benefits from the Fact That:
Q. My S/O is pleasant to look at?
Q. My S/O is pleasant to touch?
Q. My S/O is pleasant to be with?
Q. My S/O shows me appreciation and affection?
What’s the answer? Who benefits from all these wonderful truths about your Significant Other?
Isn’t it you?
Of course it is! And that’s all fine and wonderful, unless those are your primary reasons for wanting this romantic relationship.
Is this relationship based upon true love?
The real question at issue is, do you truly love your significant other? Let’s look at how Scripture defines love:
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:1-7
That’s a long list! You may think you’re showing love in all these ways, but in this particular case, pay special attention to the traits of patience and not being self-seeking.
In your desire for this romantic relationship, can you really say that you’re being patient? Can you really say that you’re not being self-seeking? Or, to put it another way, are you really laying down your life?
Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.
John 15:13
At this point you may be thinking, “of course I’d be willing to die for my Significant Other!” Great! But are you willing to live for him/her? Are you willing to lay down your desires for his/her benefit?
And if not being romantically involved with your Significant Other is the best way to help him/her to become a disciple of Christ, isn’t that a price you should be willing to pay? Isn’t that what true love would look like?
Denying your own desire, even missing out on the romance, in order to obey God with the hope of leading your Significant Other into the Kingdom is love.
Compromise breeds compromise
If you’re unsure of your “Significant Other’s” spiritual standing, it is most prudent and beneficial to both of you to wait on the romance. Maintain a friendship if you can do so without temptation, and keep showing them the love of Christ, but you must also demonstrate that your love for God is your top priority.
If you compromise on this point, you’re sending a clear message; Your obedience and love to God don’t really penetrate your whole life. You’ll be setting a precedent, showing that you’re willing to set God aside when it suits you. You’ll be showing that you’re willing to de-prioritize God for other comforts, which will invite further compromises later on.
Scripture shows us a track record of people having their own faith and life derailed because of their compromises. And none of these compromises resulted in outsiders coming into the Kingdom. Two of the most famous compromises in the area of romance are Samson Judges 16:1-22 and King Solomon 1 Kings 11:1-6.
This kind of compromise will not only be destructive and harmful to you and to your relationship with God, but also to your Significant Other. You’ll rob him/her of the chance to see what the love of God truly looks like.
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King Solomon, however, loved many foreign women besides Pharaoh’s daughter–Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians and Hittites.2 They were from nations about which the LORD had told the Israelites, “You must not intermarry with them, because they will surely turn your hearts after their gods.” Nevertheless, Solomon held fast to them in love. 3 He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray. 4 As Solomon grew old, his wives turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the LORD his God, as the heart of David his father had been. 5 He followed Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians, and Molech the detestable god of the Ammonites. 6 So Solomon did evil in the eyes of the LORD; he did not follow the LORD completely, as David his father had done.
1 Kings 11:1-6
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One day Samson went to Gaza, where he saw a prostitute. He went in to spend the night with her. 2 The people of Gaza were told, “Samson is here!” So they surrounded the place and lay in wait for him all night at the city gate. They made no move during the night, saying, “At dawn we’ll kill him.”
3 But Samson lay there only until the middle of the night. Then he got up and took hold of the doors of the city gate, together with the two posts, and tore them loose, bar and all. He lifted them to his shoulders and carried them to the top of the hill that faces Hebron.
4 Some time later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah. 5 The rulers of the Philistines went to her and said, “See if you can lure him into showing you the secret of his great strength and how we can overpower him so we may tie him up and subdue him. Each one of us will give you eleven hundred shekels of silver.”
6 So Delilah said to Samson, “Tell me the secret of your great strength and how you can be tied up and subdued.”
7 Samson answered her, “If anyone ties me with seven fresh thongs that have not been dried, I’ll become as weak as any other man.”
8 Then the rulers of the Philistines brought her seven fresh thongs that had not been dried, and she tied him with them. 9 With men hidden in the room, she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” But he snapped the thongs as easily as a piece of string snaps when it comes close to a flame. So the secret of his strength was not discovered.
10 Then Delilah said to Samson, “You have made a fool of me; you lied to me. Come now, tell me how you can be tied.”
11 He said, “If anyone ties me securely with new ropes that have never been used, I’ll become as weak as any other man.”
12 So Delilah took new ropes and tied him with them. Then, with men hidden in the room, she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” But he snapped the ropes off his arms as if they were threads.
13 Delilah then said to Samson, “Until now, you have been making a fool of me and lying to me. Tell me how you can be tied.”
He replied, “If you weave the seven braids of my head into the fabric [on the loom] and tighten it with the pin, I’ll become as weak as any other man.” So while he was sleeping, Delilah took the seven braids of his head, wove them into the fabric 14 and tightened it with the pin.
Again she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” He awoke from his sleep and pulled up the pin and the loom, with the fabric.
15 Then she said to him, “How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when you won’t confide in me? This is the third time you have made a fool of me and haven’t told me the secret of your great strength.” 16 With such nagging she prodded him day after day until he was tired to death.
17 So he told her everything. “No razor has ever been used on my head,” he said, “because I have been a Nazirite set apart to God since birth. If my head were shaved, my strength would leave me, and I would become as weak as any other man.”
18 When Delilah saw that he had told her everything, she sent word to the rulers of the Philistines , “Come back once more; he has told me everything.” So the rulers of the Philistines returned with the silver in their hands. 19 Having put him to sleep on her lap, she called a man to shave off the seven braids of his hair, and so began to subdue him. And his strength left him.
20 Then she called, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!”
He awoke from his sleep and thought, “I’ll go out as before and shake myself free.” But he did not know that the LORD had left him.
21 Then the Philistines seized him, gouged out his eyes and took him down to Gaza. Binding him with bronze shackles, they set him to grinding in the prison. 22 But the hair on his head began to grow again after it had been shaved.
Judges 16:1-22
Other Factors to Consider
In addition to the simple fact that God has commanded us not to be yoked together with unbelievers, there are several other factors for us to consider, including our motives and our own faith, trust and obedience to God.
These factors offer a further explanation of why God doesn’t want us to be yoked together with unbelievers (or with those whose faith is unclear). Let’s explore a few of these:
What if I miss my opportunity?
When you have a desire for a romantic relationship, there is often a sense of urgency. “What if I miss my chance?,” you might be thinking.
After all, the Bible does tell us to make the most of every opportunity:
Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity.
Colossians 4:3
Be very careful, then, how you live–not as unwise but as wise,16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.
Ephesians 5:15
But, when you read these verses carefully, you have to understand what kind of opportunities are being spoken of. Scripture is not urging us to be opportunistic for our own benefit, but for the benefit of others. The time is short, and our primary task on this earth as disciples of Christ is to make more disciples.
Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.
Matthew 28:19-20
Indeed, we should make the most of our opportunities; but the opportunities we should be seeking are those that benefit others.
Disobeying Christ is a bad way to win people for Christ
Let me qualify this. With God, all things are possible. So yes, despite our own sinfulness, God can and does still use us in the lives of others. God uses everyone.
But how will He use you? Will God use your good example to inspire others toward Christ? If so, God uses you for noble purposes.
But what if you disobey Christ? Yes, God will still use you, but as an example of what not to be. Our disobedience shows the world our double-mindedness. It shows them our hypocrisy. These things drive people away from us. And if we do this while claiming to love God, we make it harder for others to trust God.
How do you want to be used in the life of your Significant Other? For the noble purpose of drawing him/her into the Kingdom, or for the ignoble purpose of illustrating foolishness?
In rare cases, God may even use our disobedience to draw people to Himself, but even so, the truth of our disobedience will still be shown, and will still be problematic. In these cases, God uses us for ignoble purposes, and in unflattering ways.
When God uses us for ignoble purposes, He uses us to show the sheer folly of fighting against God. That’s how He used Pharaoh in the book of Exodus. It’s how He used Haman in the book of Esther, and it’s how He used the Pharisees in the Gospels.
Instead of using these people for the noble purpose of showing what God’s love is like, He used them for the ignoble purpose of showing what not to do.
How do you want to be used in the life of your Significant Other? For the noble purpose of drawing him/her into the Kingdom, or for the ignoble purpose of illustrating foolishness?
Is God sovereign over your romantic life?
Ask yourself this question: “If God really wants me to be with this person, will He not honor my choice to obey Him?”
In other words, we should not doubt that God will bless us if we choose to obey Him, even if it carries the risk of “losing our Significant Other.”
If you offer up your desire for a romantic relationship as a sacrifice to God so that you may obey Him, will He not honor that choice? Will He not bless you for it? This principle is illustrated in Malachi:
“Will a man rob God? Yet you rob me.
“But you ask, ‘How do we rob you?’
“In tithes and offerings.9 You are under a curse–the whole nation of you–because you are robbing me. 10 Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the LORD Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have room enough for it.
Malachi 3:8-10
The passage above refers to tithes, but the same principle applies to your romantic choices. If you withhold your obedience from God, you rob Him. But if you bring your whole self, your whole heart, your whole obedience (your whole tithe) to Him, He will pour His blessings out on you. Even romantically.
Does that mean that God will cause you to end up with your desired Significant Other? Maybe. Or maybe, He will bring someone who is even better for you. Or maybe, He will give you full contentment in being single.
Whatever it looks like, God will bless you with the outcome that is best for you, and that will give you the most joy, peace, and contentment.
What if my Significant Other Becomes a Believer Because of Me?
At this point, you may be thinking, “okay, I’ll focus on helping my Significant Other to become a believer so we can be together.”
Be careful. By all means, do what you can to help your Significant Other come to faith in Christ Jesus. But watch your motives. Are you doing this for his/her benefit, or for yours?
Watch the motives of your S/O too. Is your Significant Other coming to Christ because he/she wants a relationship with Jesus, or because he/she wants a relationship with you?
Becoming a Christian is not a checkbox on some kind of “to-do” list so that you can have a God-honoring romantic relationship. It has to be genuine, and done for the right reasons, from the right heart.
When they found him on the other side of the lake, they asked him, “Rabbi, when did you get here?”
26 Jesus answered, “I tell you the truth, you are looking for me, not because you saw miraculous signs but because you ate the loaves and had your fill. 27 Do not work for food that spoils, but for food that endures to eternal life, which the Son of Man will give you. On him God the Father has placed his seal of approval.”
28 Then they asked him, “What must we do to do the works God requires?”
29 Jesus answered, “The work of God is this: to believe in the one he has sent.”
John 6:25-29
In this passage, Jesus had just fed five thousand people with five loaves and two fish. As a result, many people wanted to follow Him, but not for the right reason. As with our own sinful nature, these people wanted to follow Jesus because of what they could get out of it.
But that misses the whole point. We shouldn’t follow Jesus because of what He can do for us, but because of who He is.
Here again, this calls for patience and sacrifice. It could take a while for your Significant Other to come into a genuine, saving, growing relationship with Christ. Or, it could never happen at all. Are you willing to wait? Are you willing to give it up? Do you love your Significant Other enough to do that for the benefit of his/her eternal soul?
The friend zone
What’s the solution, then? Be a true friend. Do what is most beneficial for him/her. Tell your Significant Other that you love him/her enough to want what’s best for them. Explain that you’d be selfish to pursue the romance before his/her soul is secure with God, and that you don’t want to do harm.
Express your support, offer your continued prayers, demonstrate patience, and be a friend.
If your Significant Other doesn’t come to Christ, you’ll have set an example that God may use later in his/her life to bring them into His Kingdom, and you’ll have honored God.
If your Significant Other does come to Christ through your obedience, and if a romantic relationship does follow, it will be built upon a far better foundation and will have far better potential to be far more fulfilling for both of you. Even onlookers will benefit from your example, being inspired to trust and obey God.
The Choice Before You…
If you’ve read this far, I commend you. It’s not easy to consider a position when you don’t want it to be true. I get it. You want this relationship. That’s understandable.
But now, you have a choice to make. Setting my own human words aside, I hope you’ve read and considered all the Scriptures I’ve included in this article, because those are the true, authoritative Words of God.
If you choose to move forward with a romantic relationship with an unbeliever, you do so with a clear understanding that God’s Word commands against it, and you choose willful disobedience, accepting all the risks and consequences, both to you and to others.
I know that’s hard, and even offensive. Yet, it’s true. The choice is yours, and you’re free to choose. My prayer, dear one, is that you’ll make the choice to serve the Lord. You won’t regret it.
But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.”
Joshua 24:15
